Tug of War

Friends are wonderful. I have many...or at least I hope they are friends. Of late there seems to have been a dilemma though. At times I feel like I am a rope in a tug of war competition. Let me try to illustrate....

On my left I have a friend. On my right I have a friend. Here I m in the middle of two of my friends but these two aren't friends. As a matter of fact they seem to have differences with one another. Issues that for some reason whether it be real or maybe even innocent misunderstandings have them at odds with one another. They both know that I am friends with one another but each wants to try and discredit the other to me. To make matters even worse they both think I will take sides with the other.

I certainly don't think it is fair of either of these friends to put me on the spot. To expect me to try and find resolve with one for the other. If they can't resolve things between one another then just how do they expect me to to do it? Nor do I think it is fair to ask me to chose one over the other. It isn't fair for either to assume I have chosen sides with the other. I despise those who have already made a decision on how I will react before I have had a chance. Many times I just don't even want to react.

I once made a statement that the quickest way to self destruction is in an effort to destroy another. I could say something similar about one that wishes to destroy their friendship with me. If you want to destroy your friendship with me, then try to destroy my friendship with another.

I will pick and chose my friends for myself and I don't think I need nor appreciate others trying to unnecessarily discrediting my friends. If you are my friend and you have a problem with one of my friends? That's not my problem....it's yours.